What Is A Pole Party?

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• Your best friend is getting married and you've been asked to organize a pole party but you have no idea what that is or how you should go about planning it

• Someone close to you just told you they're going to a pole party, or were just at one, and you're a wee bit concerned about what exactly they're up to

• You've been invited to a pole dancing party and want to know what you're in for before you send your RSVP.

Pole parties are hugely popular these days, but that doesn't mean everyone knows what they're all about. You may have lots of questions about what goes on at a pole dancing party, and this page will help you figure it all out.

You'll learn what a pole dancing party is, how they're usually structured, and how to find someone who can do a party for you, either at your home or in a studio

Whatever your reason for wanting to know what on earth a pole party is, you've come to the right place to get answers. Let's get started!

What Is A Pole Party?

A pole dancing party is a fun and unique way to celebrate a special occasion, like a birthday or a stagette/bachelorette party. Usually it's a group of women who get together, but these days parties can be co-ed too.

At the party, an experienced pole dancing instructor or pole party facilitator teaches the group some simple pole dancing moves. Typically, a party involves 1-2 hours of pole time in a structured format that takes everyone from basic pole dance moves to building a simple routine by the end of the party.

But don't worry, there's no stripping involved! And you don't need any pole dancing experience; pole parties are geared to beginners and the focus is definitely on fun.

Part of the instructor's job is also to make sure everyone feels comfortable, has a great time, and most importantly, ensures everyone stays safe.

Pole parties can be held in a home setting, in which case the instructor will bring a portable dance pole and all the necessary supplies with them. Parties can also be held in a pole dancing studio with several dance poles so everyone gets more pole time.

In addition to learning some simple pole dance moves, there are often extra touches included or available as add-ons, such as a champagne toast, decorations, costumes or props, photo opportunities, performances and goody bags.

Now that you have a general idea of what a pole party is, let's look at a typical party in more detail, so you get a more complete picture of what's involved.

What Exactly Happens At A Pole Dance Party?

While every studio or presenter has their own "formula" for a fun pole party, typically the party will go something like this...

To start with, most likely everyone in your group will be required to sign a waiver, and there should be some basic safety information given. For example, you'll probably be asked to remove rings and other loose jewelry, and to wash any lotion off your hands (hand lotion and dance poles are a dangerous combination!).

During this time, your pole party facilitator will introduce herself, and there likely will be some fun icebreaker activities planned. The idea is to help everyone relax and get in the party mood, as well as to help everyone feel comfortable together in case not all the guests know each other.

One popular icebreaker activity is for each guest to choose their own pole dancer name for the evening.

There may also be a champagne toast (usually with fake bubbly, for safety reasons), or some other type of ice-breaker activity. Your party presenter might also give a short talk to let everyone know what the format for the pole party will be, and to set the stage for the fun to come.

When it's time to get started, there will probably be some kind of warm up to get all the guests ready for the activity to follow. While you'll definitely be having fun, pole dancing can be quite a workout even at the beginner level. That's why it's important to warm up so you don't hurt yourself.

After everyone is relaxed and warmed up, it's time to get the party underway!

During the main part of the event, your instructor will demonstrate different moves and help everyone learn them.

If you're in a home setting, you'll more than likely be gathered around a single dance pole encouraging your friends as they try the moves.

If you're in a studio setting with several poles, you may be sharing with another person or two. That way, you'll get to help and support each other while you learn and laugh.

Time will fly by as you're learning the moves, and before you know it you'll be pole dancing like a pro!

Before the party wraps up, the instructor will usually encourage each participant to show off their moves for their friends in a "pole performance."

Some people can be shy about this at first, but with a little encouragement from the rest of the partygoers everyone usually takes a turn.

Sometimes costume items or props like boas, hats and wigs are provided, to make this even more fun. And if there's a guest of honor such as a birthday girl or bride-to-be, she'll often be asked to dance last, as a grand finale to the evening.

As the party winds down, you'll probably want a group photo around the pole, so everyone can remember how much fun they had. Your party presenter will normally be delighted to help. Remember to get a picture with everyone's camera!

Once the pole party is over, you may be asked to fill out a brief feedback or evaluation form before you leave. Most studios and pole dancing teachers are interested in hearing about how they can improve their pole parties, and getting feedback from you is the best way they can do this.

At the end of many pole parties, a small goody bag is given to each guest as an extra treat and a "thank you for coming" gift. If there's a guest of honor, sometimes the guests get together ahead of time and create a special gift bag for them, which is presented at the end of the party.

While every pole dance party is unique, the format above is typical. If you'd like detailed information on a pole party you're planning, just ask the studio or pole party instructor you're considering hiring. They should be happy to answer all your questions.

How to Find a Pole Party Presenter

Now that you have a better idea of what a pole party is, you might be wondering how to find an instructor who can facilitate a party for you and your friends.

Fortunately, you don't need to look very far! The worldwide pole dancing directory lists thousands of pole studios, instructors and pole party companies from all over the world. It's totally free and easy to use. If you need some help planning a pole dancing party, the directory is a great place to start.

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